Today In Creepy Asshole Weirdoes

Televangelist John Hagee below, warning his flock about the dangers of secular humanism.  Is he really comparing rape crisis centers and shelters for battered women to single's bars and penitentiaries?  Plus: I've tried the magic spells in Harry Potter (oooooh, some days I want to Expelliarmus the hell out of Adam) and sorry, they don't work.  No danger of teaching your children witchcraft there.

Joe Jervis of Joe. My. God. reminds us that John Hagee is the dude who blamed Katrina on the gays and has called for a pre-emptive nuclear strike against Iran.

NSFW: What People Are Really Looking For On Match.com

Because online dating really is all about African Fertility Statues, Facebook Statuses, and fingerbanging with fingerless gloves.  An oldy but goody from Mike Rose and crew.



Thanks again to Adam.  Even though he has a cranky ass for a lover.

DOMA Is Still Alive, Folks

If you have any doubt that there needs to be a lot more work regarding the benefits of marriage for LGBT Americans, look no further than here.

Even though DOMA has seen a decided lack of support from the Administration in recent weeks, one couple still feels the pain of its oppressive policies.  Bradford Wells and Anthony John Makk, who have been together for 19 years and married 7 years ago in Massachusetts, are now slated to be separated as deportation proceedings have been completed against Makk.  He is going to be shipped back to his native Australia, which is doubly sad as he is his husband's primary caregiver.  Wells suffers from AIDS, and Makk's absence is sure to have an impact on his health.

And what is the immigration authorities justification for deporting Makk?  That's right, you guessed it!  The Defense of Marriage Act.

"Bradford Wells, a U.S. citizen, and Anthony John Makk, a citizen of Australia, were married seven years ago in Massachusetts. They have lived together 19 years, mostly in an apartment in the Castro district. The U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services denied Makk's application to be considered for permanent residency as a spouse of an American citizen, citing the 1996 law that denies all federal benefits to same-sex couples.

"The decision was issued July 26. Immigration Equality, a gay-rights group that is working with the couple, received the notice Friday and made it public Monday. Makk was ordered to depart the United States by Aug. 25. Makk is the sole caregiver for Wells, who has severe health problems.

"'I'm married just like any other married person in this country,' Wells said. 'At this point, the government can come in and take my husband and deport him. It's infuriating. It's upsetting. I have no power, no right to keep my husband in this country. I love this country, I live here, I pay taxes and I have no right to share my home with the person I married.'"

While I blog frequently about marriage equality, I never really felt exceedingly passionate about the struggle for gay couples to get married in this country.  I often felt that ENDA and the repeal of DADT were far more important to LGBT Americans.  In fact, when I get married in March, it will most likely not be a legal ceremony.  Adam and I are happy just confirming our love to each other in front of friends (though Dan Choi, our officiant, recently got ordained just in case).  However, for bi-national couples, the right to get married is an important one and extremely necessary to stay together.

What I'm Listening To Today

Adam left this song on my Facebook wall yesterday, and even though it's in some commercial or other I have to say it's cute and I like it.

What I'm Listening To Today

I'm rediscovering Joanna Newsom this week (Adam is a fan) so here ya go:

In Which Ian Awesome Loses His Mind

Adam has been released from the hospital and is definitely on the mend.  He's a little weak and shaky, and I suspect he's overwhelmed by the events which have taken place, but I am optimistic that everything is going to be ok.

Fuck that.  Things are going to be more than just ok.  Things are going to be awesome.  Because, you see, Adam and I decided that life is too fucking short to beat around the bush and he asked me to marry him.  I said yes.

Before you say that this is crazy: Adam and I have courted each other off and on for the past three years, and have even been roommates.  We know each other better than many people who do get married, and I can't think of a better partner-in-crime for my various misadventures.  It's not every day that one of my favorite people on the planet tells me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and you know what?

Just a few days ago I thought I was going to lose him and it tore my world in half.  The instant he looked up at me from his hospital bed, I had already decided I needed to mend that world by having him in it.  When he told me he wanted to marry me, I said, "You beat me to it."

It will take us many months to put this all together.  Even though we came to this decision very quickly, we are not rushing gettin' hitched.  He still has a lot of things he needs to do in Joplin, to include getting better, and I need time to get my situation in Seattle sorted out.

But motherfuckers, I'm getting married.


Er, who wants to chain themselves to something with me in Seattle to get a marriage license?